**Introduction**

Firstly, I want to discuss my recent loss of my Twitter X account, which has inspired me to share a glimpse of my life in the world of adult entertainment. Losing my Twitter account, along with nearly 40,000 followers, was a crushing blow that left me feeling uncertain at first. Starting over with just a few hundred followers raised alarms about how this loss might affect my business and personal brand. Yet, as I navigated this unexpected challenge, I quickly realised that social media, while valuable for showcasing authenticity, doesn't solely define success. True visibility comes from knowing that people are watching, even if they choose not to follow, like, or engage directly.

So, for those who may be interested, I will share a little glimpse into my history and story, especially for those who glance at my Twitter account, see a handful of followers, and assume I'm a newcomer to the industry. The truth is, I've been immersed in the adult entertainment world for nearly three decades.

Here, I will share what ignited my passion and why I still find immense joy in this vibrant industry.

**A Curious Beginning**

Even before high school, I was drawn to the world of adult entertainment. I vividly remember sneaking glances at escort columns in newspapers while my parents thought I was engrossed in the comics page. I was captivated reading the personal ads on dominatrixes, strippers, and sex workers. My imagination soared, fueled by a blend of innocence and genuine curiosity to understand a world that felt both foreign and alluring.

**The First Steps into Performance**

My journey wasn't born out of necessity, it blossomed from pure curiosity. At 16, I managed to slip into nightclubs without ever being asked for ID. My adventurous spirit led me to sign up for an amateur strip tease competition I had been watching weekly for a little over a month. One night, I signed up to enter for the following week. Excited yet nervous, I dedicated time to planning my costume and rehearsing my routine in front of the mirror. When the night arrived, the thrill of stepping onto the stage and feeling the crowd's cheers was electric. Winning a modest prize of $100 felt monumental, igniting a passion that would only continue to grow.

**The Living Dolls**

At 17 and a half, I found myself having a drink at the Broken Hill Hotel in Perth that early afternoon. Four ladies came out dancing on the bar and small stage in skimpy costumes. These ladies were part of a company called The Living Dolls. I was mesmerised by their seductive dance moves and raunchy costume changes, filling this urge deep within me wanting to be up there with them. So, when the show ended, I gathered the courage to go out back to the change rooms to approach the owner. She offered me a chance to join the company under the condition that I would have to wait until I turned 18 before I could legally work for her. In the meantime, I was invited to come in weekly to learn the dance routines, so I would be ready when I turned 18. I was nervous and excited as I counted down the days to my first show.

**Stepping onto the Stage**

When my birthday finally arrived, just fresh, young, and 18, stepping into my role as an exotic entertainer was exhilarating. My first performance was nerve-wracking, but the thrill of dancing in sexy costumes and soaking up the audience's attention was intoxicating. Being a living doll involved choreographed routines and quick costume changes. Each show having five sets was fun work but by no means easy. The chaos backstage, where a dresser helped us change swiftly between sets, as sweat dripped off me, was unfamiliar yet exciting. The owner was sassy and demanding, emphasising the importance of quick changes.

In those early days, I lived and worked in Western Australia, where strip clubs were virtually non-existent in Perth. Instead, we entertained in bars. The rules with liquor licensing were no nudity, so in these bars, we danced around in skimpy costumes. In many venues, if you got caught even flashing a nipple, you would get into a lot of trouble and be fired because the bar would receive a hefty fine. I danced in nightclubs, embracing what we called go-go dancing, performing in cages and touring through mining towns. While I did explore the strip club scene in Melbourne, I preferred to stay in Western Australia, where I felt at home with my friends and family, and personally, I enjoyed the atmosphere of showgirl-style dancing more than the pole dancing scene.

I enjoyed the brief moments between sets at the dance shows connecting with patrons and showcasing my personality. Handing out my business card, these interactions were key to securing future bookings at private functions, where the real money was made. The aim was to get patrons to choose you for bookings to do topless/nude waitressing or to be chosen as the entertainer at their events like bucks parties, birthdays, and Christmas events. Earning a living doing something I loved was empowering, and I found myself performing almost daily at bars, nightclubs, and private events, work became my love and my life.

**The Price of Choices**

However, my choices to be a part of the adult industry came with sacrifices. The judgement from friends at that time weighed heavily on me. One close friend, someone I had been inseparable with since primary school, even issued me an ultimatum. But I was not quitting something I enjoyed just because of her disapproval and judgement. She spread hurtful rumours among my crowd of friends, claiming I offered sexual services for money in car parks during shows, which stung deeply because it was completely untrue. I often pondered, even if it were true, why was it any of their business? Why was my lifestyle choice up for discussion or judgement, especially by people who knew me? I've never understood such judgement. But judgment is an all-too-human trait that has shaped our world for ages, and it's disappointing to see it still so prevalent. While many make snap judgments about others' choices, I strive to embrace a different mindset, even regarding heartbreaking topics. I remind myself that I can't fully grasp the complexities behind someone's decisions or struggles. Instead of judging, I focus on compassion, recognising that we all have our own battles. Ultimately, we all deserve the right to make our own choices, we can have opinions, but who am I to judge anybody on any topic when we are all imperfect in this world?

Instead of this breaking me, this scrutiny only strengthened my resolve. I realised that the opinions of others don't define my reality, what truly mattered was pursuing what made me happy and living my life on my terms. I would rather have no friends than friends who won't support the choices I make. So, I may have lost my crowd of childhood friends, but I soon made new ones. I've always been a person who isn't afraid to eat alone, practicing non-attachment, those who are meant to be in your life will be. I either love you or you're irrelevant. I don't believe in being bitter, I believe in being better, and I don't believe in hate, even towards those who have hurt me, as hate is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The only person hate hurts is the person who's feeling it. I believe in sitting with compassion and working on self-love and living my life on my terms. I don't see the word selfish as a reflection of another's character, rather, it suggests that someone needs to be more important than the person who let them down. *giggles* Oops, got a little deep there *giggles*, but that is me, I'm deep and passionate.

On a lighter note, one year, I entered a Miss Nude competition and was over the moon when I won "Best Legs." I also had the honour of participating in the opening night of Perth's first pole dancing strip club, Club Exotica. I'm sure things may have changed since then, however, at that time, there was a divide between strippers and escorts—a split I never fully understood. Both roles involved entertainment for money, yet there was a reluctance to collaborate. You couldn't do both, or companies wouldn't hire you. There was a judgement within this scene. I maintained my boundaries and even accepted private jobs regardless of the presence of escorts, which other workers refused to work at. I always believed in mutual respect and confirmed with my boundaries of no touching that I was paid for just waitressing or entertaining.

As a stripper, I did often receive high offers for sex work. While intrigued, I remained committed to my boundaries, knowing that crossing that line would alter everything due to the judgement surrounding agency strippers and escorts. I also knew deep down that the moment I made this choice, there was no going back, so I wanted to be sure that I was ready mentally to make this change.

After years of curiosity, I decided to move to Melbourne in search of new opportunities and dip my toe in the world of escorting.

**Embracing a New Identity**

I relocated to Melbourne in 2004 because I felt Perth would be too small a city to jump the fence without word getting out, and for personal reasons, I wanted to keep this private. Though I felt no shame in the choice I was making, my commitment to keeping this private was to protect my child from the judgement and stigma. Though I knew my parents would be fine with my choices as they supported me through my choices to date, I didn't want them worrying about something they didn't understand. I even remember before I moved having a conversation with my mother about my thoughts on doing this work, and she was like, in one breath, "Go for it. Why the hell not?" followed by, "But what if you got hurt? What about this? And what about that?" She is all about "what if" and worry. My mother worries about so much all the time, and I didn't think it would be good for her. I felt it was best to keep this private to protect the ones I love, so I felt Melbourne was the perfect city to fall under the radar. I adopted the name Jayme Lee Fox and immersed myself in the escorting world, navigating an industry that predated social media. I branded myself as Jayme Lee Fox, strip tease & please, offering a role play strip tease as an introduction to sexy time. As dancing was what I knew, I felt it was a perfect introduction to bookings to feel safe and in control of my boundaries and navigate my way through a world that was unfamiliar.

After all these years, it is still a secret from my private circle—not a secret I keep through shame, but there's something I find quite exciting about having a life that no one else knows about—my little secret. When I'm not entertaining, I don't wish to talk about business that others would find so intriguing, so people who know me know I just don't talk about work or business, I never have. Melbourne has been my home for 21 years now and I have no plans on leaving this beautiful city.

When I first started, there were no mentors or resources to guide newcomers in private escorting, so I had to navigate the industry on my own, finding creative, safe, and smart ways to operate in a world that can come with risks. A lot has changed since then, and it's wonderful to see the abundance of industry mentors, influencers, and support available now.

Back in the early days, the laws regarding advertising in Melbourne were very strict, we could only post head-and-shoulders photos, which didn't leave much to work with as a face-to-face provider. Despite this limitation, I discovered clever strategies for advertising. Even though incall services were illegal, I chose to offer them anyway because it felt like the safest option, and there was always a demand for it. I knew I wasn't alone in this, as clients would sometimes overshare, as uncomfortable as this made me, without making a scene, I would gently shut it down.

You can imagine the joy I felt when this industry was finally decriminalised. It meant I no longer had to face the threats of blackmail or the worry of clients oversharing in a competitive environment where kindness isn't always the norm.

I've never subscribed to the idea of competitiveness in this business or in life, because there's truly only one of me. My focus has always been on being the best version of myself. However, I'm human, and there are times when I experience self-doubt and need to reflect on myself, but as I mentioned before, I don't believe in being bitter, I believe in striving to be better.

I often say that a flower doesn't compete with another flower, it simply blooms alongside others. Just like a garden, there can be weeds, but I choose to focus on growing stronger than the weeds around me.

Throughout my journey, I have always strived to gain visibility while maintaining a low-profile presence.

**The Question of Longevity**

Throughout my journey, I've taken breaks from the industry, though I have never retired or announced retirement. I just took time away to explore studies and other business ventures because sometimes I questioned my longevity in the industry. Did I have a use-by date? I worried at times about how I would provide for myself if I was no longer marketable in this business. After all, this has been my world since I was young. However, I soon realised that my joy in entertaining as a companion was irreplaceable and there's no expiration date in this industry. I still have regular clients I've seen since the beginning and love meeting and having new adventures. So I no longer have that fear or concern, and even though I learned trades and enjoyed other business ventures, I was always drawn back to this because this business is where I find the most joy, the most financial abundance, and personal power.

As the years rolled on and new faces entered the industry, when I started, there was only one directory with a maximum of 8 to 10 ladies advertised in Melbourne. Wow how things have changed It's no longer taboo, there are hundreds and hundreds of advertisers. At times, I contemplated whether "Jayme Lee Fox" still resonated with me, especially as others began adopting the name Fox. Though they have every right, I don't own the name. It started to feel like it wasn't mine anymore. After recent attempts to rebrand, I returned to my original name, which truly reflects my history, identity, and who I am. It was my brand first, and Foxy is who I am to the core.

Over the years, I have started and deactivated my social media accounts multiple times, frustrated by the negativity that often appeared. However, I learned to put the blinkers on and pay attention to my own marketing and my own tweets. I chose to remain active to showcase my authenticity, even if I don't engage deeply. My experience on Twitter X taught me to focus on the quality of my posts. Many clients don't engage on social media but still seek me out, reinforcing the idea that engagement doesn't always equate to genuine interest.

Reflecting on my journey, I can see how each experience in the adult entertainment industry has contributed to who I am today. I've learned valuable lessons in reinvention, resilience, and self-acceptance, all while navigating laughter, tears, friendships, and heartache. Embracing my identity as a veteran in sexy entertainment has allowed me to stay true to myself. Among the connections I've made, some of the most meaningful have been with clients looking for comfort and confidence. Being able to help them regain their self-assurance has truly been a privilege, highlighting the importance of what I do.

**Moving Forward**

I don't envision retirement, I'm not doing this because I have to, I do it because I genuinely still enjoy it. Outside of the admin and marketing tasks, it really doesn't feel like work. However, I want to emphasise that this is still my business, and I take that seriously.

I choose to maintain high standards and strong boundaries, valuing my time and engaging only with those who show genuine respect. I am not available on short notice, and I'm extremely low volume, dedicating most of my time to things that I enjoy outside of business. I entertain only one booking in a 24-hour window, and the only way to secure a time with me is through advance bookings.

I don't care about your age, size, or nationality; however, I have no patience for those who make contact with no effort, manners, or a proper introduction. Messages sent with no effort just don't get a reply from me. You can be painfully shy or new to booking a companion; there is no excuse for a lack of manners and a proper and polite introduction.

To those who take the time to reach out, I genuinely look forward to meeting you. And to my long-time regulars, thank you for being such an important part of why I enjoy what I do. You've offered me an escape during challenging times, turning life's lemons into lemonade.

So here's to the future, new beginnings, and the enduring spirit of Jayme Lee Fox!