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The power to make love which man alone possess distinguishes him from the rest of the animal species. However, When he misuses this unique creative gift he taps back into his animal past into the mechanical animal drive, and masturbates or mates without love. He is then unhappy.
~ Barry Long Tantric teacher
Orgasm sets in motion a cascade of programmed neurochemical events, which may continue for approximately two weeks. They change how we feel and perceive the world around us, especially our partners.
~ Marina Robinson
Temptation is fire. Triumph over temptation is light
~ Samael Aun Woer
Making love is like inflating a ballon. Having an orgasm is like popping the balloon. But if you finish without an orgasm, you are like a balloon that takes several days to gradually deflate. Leaving you much longer to enjoy that inflated feeling.
~ Testimony from the book 'Cupid Poisoned arrow'
Today's blog we will be discussing Tantric/ sacred sex. Educating you on some of the basics around sacred sex, some of the misconceptions, what sexual energy is, and what a sacred sex session may look like. At the conclusion of this blog will be a small list of videos and books that I have consolidated with previous knowledge and experience to write this blog. I highly recommend having some fun and creating your own little research project, before creating a beautiful tantric/ sacred sex session with an intimate partner. Just like with the subject of BDSM, tantric/ sacred sex is a powerful form of sexual intercourse. Do not be confused between TANTRA & tantric sex they are two separate things. As we will discuss in small detail TANTRA is an ancient Indian religion and spiritual way of life that stems from Buddhist & Hinduist beliefs; Tantric/ sacred sex is a very deep form of love making that if done correctly - or incorrectly; will pair the souls together. While Tantra and tantric/ sacred sex are two completely different things, the two are also closely tied together. Without being a guru or certified practitioner of Tantra and tantric/ sacred sex, I may not always phrase everything correctly. I am an entry level student of this practice and so the information is just of a general nature around the subject of Tantra and tantric/ sacred sex. This blog has been written and interpreted from a male heterosexual view.
If you think BDSM is the perfect escape for narcissists to release their tendencies to control, manipulate, and abuse someone. Wait until you realise the strength of real, deep, pure love that tantric love making, and sacred sex can bring. The depth and power that is found within tantric sex & sacred sex is extremely alluring! It is love, it is powerful! Obviously if you have any prior knowledge of real tantric/ sacred sex, or even the subject of Tantra as a whole, you would know that the previous paragraph is the furthest thing from what Tantra represents, and what Tantric sex is about. Tantra is love; pure, unfiltered, deep love.
The word Tantra is thrown around like internet coaches selling you their 'life changing' course. "Tantra is free sexual liberation, express yourself to the world, have massive orgies, and have sex with me to also become a Tantra master"; just how the coach will say, "You just have to believe in yourself, sell your car, divorce the wife, and buy my course that I pay actors in the room to sign up for".
Tantra is a religious/ spiritual practice & belief system from ancient India that worshipped the power of the feminine, the physical beauty of the female, her spiritual intellect, her life-giving capabilities, and had goddesses who believers of this faith worshipped. It is a sub-religion of the Buddhist and Hindu belief systems. To know what REAL TANTRA is, you will be par-taking in religious studies. "So if it's basically bible studies how did sex become intertwined so deeply?" Great question. I could be wrong here, but all religions place importance on sex, it's just the beliefs around sex that complicate some people's beliefs. Sex is vital to the creation of life. Every religion, including satanists know this.
I'm going to take a guess that you are not a test tube baby, if you're reading this from the year 2040 maybe another story. Even then, unless the sperm was artificially created, a test tube baby would have been created through an element of sex. Masturbation. Sex is more than just intercourse.
Because of the poor sexual education here in Australia (Maybe it has changed) most people do not know or understand that sex is so much more then just cunnilingus, a blow job, and penetration. And until I became an escort I did not have this deeper understanding of what sex really is either. I had the basics, and knew the importance of sex, but had no deep appreciation for the WHOLE experience of sex. I now understand why masturbating daily for no reason other than to 'release stress' is a waste of energy. Using a vibrator every time you want to flick the bean yourself can make stimulation from another human less enjoyable. Understanding that a lot of sexual health problems can be fixed. Learning about the importance of sexual health from the perspective of the foods and supplements you consume. Learning that a man can grow his penis. Learning that we all have unique parts of our body that turn us on or off, for example one person loves having their ear lobe played, nibbled, and blown on; while another person will tell you to never touch their ear. How to have good communication around sex. The variety of reasons someone may use an escort service. The list goes on, and on, and on, and on. The conversation of sex is just like religion; what type of sex are we talking about, what topic of sex are we discussing, what are your values around sex, are you going to respect my view of sex, and so forth. That being said sex should be a lot more comfortable to talk than religion because we as humans can no believe in a religion if we do not have sex. Unless we create artificial sperm and use artificial sperm to create life we need sex to procreate. If nobody had sex and no babies were created anymore we would slowly die as a species, what happens when we are all dead, the belief of God(s) and higher beings no longer exists in our minds- those who still have their soul may be moved onto the next part of the simulation. And additionally, I do not believe we should be screaming about sex at the top of our lungs on the train or at the coffee shop, not because it is taboo, but because it does hold sacred significance to some people. For example, Christians are no against sex, they just believe you should be disciplined with sex, and as I have learnt withholding sex until marriage holds a lot of power for a couple, and I respect couples who stand by this belief and strengthen other parts of the relationship first. That being said, personally I will not be waiting for marriage to have sex – well I can't I'm a SEX WORKER. A dirty, unintelligent, man whore. Some people also do not need or want to hear that you were hung from a ceiling by the dungeon master/ mistress and whipped every time you forgot what you were meant to remember. They do not want to hear you talk about the milk that just oozed out of your body as your pussy became his personal fuck hole. So while you should feel comfortable to have a room level conversation about the subject of sex, always be mindful of your surroundings, there is a time and place.
Sex is more sacred for most women. Sex is what allows them to create life. From carrying the fetus, nurturing a child inside of them for nine months, the birth experience, then the breast feeding. Sex from this perspective creates a much more sacred experience for the female. So for a religion that worships the woman it would be only fitting that the sacred practice, the scared meditation of deep, deep love making has a high level of importance. Though as we have evolved and share love, and practice sacred sex without the necessity of reproducing I believe that sex can be and is sacred for both man & woman – providing that reproduction is not a part of the equation; otherwise spiritually sex holds much more significance for the woman.
My experiences
I have only had two tantric sex sessions in my life. For me, a real tantric session is an entire day of love making, an entire day of slow dancing with each other physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. A spotless clean environment, a mind emptied of everything except the person I have the pleasure of making love with. She doesn't need to think about anything and does not feel rushed. she feels cherished, she feels beautiful, she feels like a goddess, she feels loved. As the leader I am unconcerned with time and I go to the part of the soul that has a deep desire to care & nurture for someone – the inner masculine that thrives on love. This is part of the reason why I will not offer a complete tantric service to clients unless I am forty-years of age, decided on being a bachelor for the rest of my life, and have REAL yoga & tantric certificates. This is my own personal enjoyment, my own personal gift, and is not something I want to share with just anybody. This being said there is one person who offers sacred sexual services who piques my interest, and unless I have the partner I desire to explore this style of sex with, I am interested to see how a transactional tantric experience would feel for the emotions & soul. I may very well have slow, deep, passionate, sensual sex with someone, I appreciate the female body, the human body in of itself is a piece of art to be admired. But to provide a full tantric experience I have to know a great deal about you and who you are. Because even within my own personal experiences there are a couple minor negative memories connotated to it.
What is sexual energy?
What is sexual energy?!?! Simply put sexual energy is our life energy, it's our libido, our estrogen & our testosterone, our dopamine, our focus, our clarity. Sexual energy is the energy that professional fighters use when they engage in a competition. Sexual energy is the energy women use to glide through life instead of walk. Sexual energy is the energy a man harnesses to desire and satisfy his woman. Sexual energy is what a woman harnesses to seduce her man into a world of pleasure. When you have more sexual energy you are more focused, you are clearer with your thoughts, you are stronger, and you are more appealing. Just like everything else that holds energy, you can add more to it or you can deplete it. You can deplete this energy through consumption of bad foods, not exercising, not moving the body or stretching, masturbating excessively. You can create & store this energy by consuming good healthy food such as nuts, fruits, vegetables and non-processed meat; moving your body and stretching it – go for a walk in the sun, start yoga, palates, martial arts are excellent for sexual energy; and seaman retention.
It's common knowledge that steak, broccoli, carrots, brussel sprouts, and mashed potato is more beneficial for you than a large double quarter pounder meal with extra pickles, extra onion, and an orange juice. It's common knowledge that moving your body is essential for healthy joints and bones. It's common knowledge that receiving sunlight correctly is healthy. Martial arts like JuJitsu, boxing, and kick boxing work wonders for your mental & sexual health. All of this is basic, simple, common knowledge you learn when you begin studying subjects such as health, wellbeing & sexual health. All the healthier choices give you more energy. One of the biggest ways to deplete your energy is excessive masturbation & porn consumption. At the time of writing this I have given up porn for good. And yes I still do my solo penis exercises. I thought that I would need the extra stimulation to jelq my cock or do weighted kegal exercises but I was wrong. Thanks to a good diet, everyday supplements, and water; I can use my mind to do what I need to do. As an ex-porn addict (up to four times a day), I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that masturbating for a 'stress release' or to 'just blow your load' depletes your energy. Masturbating of any sort to completion will drain & deplete your energy. When you learn how to transmute the sexual energy that you are about to flush down the toilet or gift your vibrator, you will start to see incredible results in your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual world.
Sexual transmutation or seamen retention is a practice where you with strain yourself from ejaculating. Doing seamen retention alone can be done by avoiding masturbating altogether which is the easiest method, or when you do masturbate you do so without porn and do not orgasm, this is what sexual educators call edging. When you put the porn down and learn to pleasure yourself with your own thoughts you can begin to explore your body with a lot more detail, finding out what other sensations you enjoy. You might find pleasure in running your hands through your hair, or gracing the bottom of your feet, or asphyxiating yourself; you may find pleasure in tapping & smacking your balls as a man or breasts as a woman; things I can guarantee 99% of porn consumers would not do when they have a screen in front of them that contains high intensity porn. When you put the screen down your focus is on yourself not the people on the screen, this allows yourself the brain capacity and room to breathe deeply, explore yourself, and take control of your orgasm. Should you be practicing sexual transmutation with a partner your mostly like not going to masturbate at all unless mutually practiced together or extreme scenarios where you are travelling afar and are forced to have digital sex. Should you have a partner I advise against solo masturbation most of the time. So yes, as a couple practicing transmutation you can still have sex, neither of you come, and you both learn to control yourself. And while there are heaps of people who say blue balls will give you cancer, blue balls are bad for you; there are an equal amount of studies and papers that say delaying your ejaculation will not do any harm and can even be beneficial for you, providing you redirect the energy. When you have real sex with a partner it is easy to direct the energy away from your erogenous zone, just cuddle for ten minutes and gift the other person some affection. The energy from your erogenous zones now has a pathway to your heart, which is then pumped to the brain, which connects to the soul, which fuels positive emotions. Compared to artificial porn, there is no way on any playing field that the energy from your erogenous zone is going back through your heart. Now look I am not a health professional so the information above is just from my perspective, if you need porn in order to get things going, I have no understanding and I cannot comment; All I know is that from my experiences and my knowledge that you will not transmute sexual energy consuming porn. Should you be practicing transmutation and still masturbating without any added artificial stimulation, there are multiple ways that you can redirect the energy from your erogenous zone to other parts of your body. Because when you are masturbating with nothing but your mind you will be much more conscious and sensitive to other parts of the body. When you are consuming porn your attention will be on the sexy, perverted, naughty things of your screen. Should you practice transmutation and seamen retention it is at your own accord, and I hold no liability at all! I shouldn't have to type that last sentence but I must.
I learnt and attest to this piece of knowledge that I acquired a few years ago from a pickup artist coach, now industry podcast host 'Marcus Wolf'. If you have a partner or play mate, and you tell her that she is not allowed to have your come because you're transmuting for a month, she will go ballistic for you. *GENERALISATION INCOMING. Women like seeing a man come. She wants to get off too, that is very important (sometimes); but women thoroughly enjoy seeing a man ejaculate for them. They are that hot or that good at what they are doing that they can make their man come. So when you say, "No babe I'm not coming for a month" you may have a little bit of war on your hands because she wants that hot load of spume out of your ball sack. It is incredible to see the effects that happen when you refrain from ejaculating.
Let's use the quote from above
Making love is like inflating a ballon. Having an orgasm is live popping the balloon. But if you finish without an orgasm, you are like a balloon that takes several days to gradually deflate. Leaving you much longer to enjoy that inflated feeling.
~ Testimony from the book 'Cupid Poisoned arrow'
Imagine the bag of balloons is your sexual energy. You blow up a balloon and play with it for a day, but than you become board with said balloon because you do not want a red ballon anymore, you want a yellow one; so you pop the red balloon and inflate the yellow one. You then keep repeating this process, and soon enough you have an empty packet and will need to go buy another packet to continue the fun. If you keep ejaculating your energy down the toilet, you're going to be like a packet of ballons. The empty packet is a symbol for you being completely tired, grumpy, and lazy. How you ask; because if you have been playing with said balloons, chances are you are addicted to those ballons, therefore when it is empty you will mostly cry, whing, and really want more balloons. Whereas if you inflate one ballon, you play with it, and then say enough is enough for today, coming back to the ballon in a few days, you will still have a ballon that you can use. Unless the dog ate it. And because you have patiently emptied your packet (the symbol for energy) you will most likely be more patient with 'NEEDING' another packet, and not be so concerned when it is empty. You will most likely be happy because you have just finished playing with ballons for the last six months not six days. Using the balloon analogy above you should be able to clearly see how holding onto your sexual energy through delayed ejaculation and sexual transmutation keeps the energy positively stored within your body, allowing you to be more focused, have more clarity, feel stronger, look sexier, smell sexier and even feel sexier.
When you start to become more in tune with your body and its senses, you can increase the intensity of the delayed ejaculation by getting yourself as close to orgasm as possible, before ceasing everything and trying to prevent yourself from going overboard. It's heaps of fun! You will learn that you can release seamen and still have the mental state of mind to maintain an erection and maintain the energy to continue on with the sexual session or your day. The feeling for a guy is incredible! If you can get yourself to the point of no return but withhold yourself from going over the edge, you'll feel like a million bucks. Just be careful not to get excited too quickly, let everything cool down, breathe, take a two-to-five-minute break to have some water, stretch, and breathe if you need; once you are one-hundred percent calm and focused again, rekindle if you so wish. Let me paint you a picture and tell yourself if this sounds like a pleasurable break.
You've been making slow, passionate, penetrative love for twenty minutes and one or both of your need a break to prevent orgasming. You have a five minute break of enjoying water, stretching and catching your breath. Would you enjoy just looking into your partners eyes, or admiring their entire naked body, spiritually telling each other that they are the sexiest piece of art you have ever seen? How would that feel to give? how would that feel to receive? Would you even care if you just admired each other for your beautiful bodies, intricate souls, and wonderful minds for another five minutes? This ten-minute break could lead to the next two hours of deep, soulful penetrative sex that melts every part of your beings.
Bringing your attention back to the point of no return edge; with the amount of energy you have just withheld and stored, you may feel like going to the gym for a few hours, or running a marathon, or writing a book. Maybe a little bit of an exaggeration but you will feel pumped if you go to the edge and then refrain from orgasming. This particular practice does require conscious training though. *GENERALISATION INCOMING. Women hate being denied orgasms. My arbitrary belief is that because females are usually more receptable to multiple orgasms compared to males; they hate being taken to an orgasm and denied a come a little more than man. *GENERALISATION FINISHED. If you are a man reading this, deny your woman from coming for an entire hour of sex, tell her she must communicate with you when she is close to coming and then you pull away from her; relax, breath, let the sexual chemistry of the room settle, and then SLOWLY build things back up again. If you denied her three orgasms and then let her have the fourth at the one-hour mark, she would explode! Think one of those XXL ballons at full capacity popping. If you are a women reading this, educate your man on the subject by telling him you read an article about delayed ejaculation for women and that you want to try it, that way he can still lead the experience and feel like the masculine. If you are a couple reading this, do I need to say anything……. If you want to experience an edging experience with me, LEXX SOULE; I am happy to come with you through the experience (pun intended). Just SMS 0411 316 973. Squirting can be included.
I empathise with the fact that there are a range of different medical conditions, and/ or life experiences that make orgasms a game of chess or a game of snap. Meaning, for whatever your specific reason, practicing edging may be more difficult than the way I have worded this practice. There are plenty of sexual health professionals out there that could possibly help you start your journey of sexual transmutation if you fall into this category; two all-round sex educators I always recommend are Caitline Victorious & Esther Perel.
Sexual energy is more than just the fire of the bedroom. Sexual energy is more than having a sex appeal. Sexual energy is our life energy, it is what allows us to go through the day, it is what allows us to have a clear mind. Sexual energy is deeply rooted in all that we do & what we consume. Learning what sexual energy really is, how to control and improve your sexual energy is important to having a healthy life mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually.
What might a tantric/ sacred sex practice look like?
I will not be sharing my two personal accounts, but what I will share are some concepts around what may make a tantric/ sacred sex session fulfilling and fun for you and those you wish to share the experience with. One of the biggest things during the entire love making session is the appreciation and worship of the body. The body is a work of art and so you must ensure that you show your appreciation. Compliment your man's strong arms, his round shoulders, thick neck, scruffy hair, maybe his booty, his eyebrows, his lips, his scars. Complement your woman's collar bones, her eyelashes, her eyes, her smile, her breasts, her cellulite, her tummy, the softness of her skin, the roundness of her soft feet. Conferring love to the other person for the vessel of art that they were gifted. We all have imperfections on our body, these insecurities play at our mental view of ourselves, hearing another person find and detail everything that they love about our body is extremely alluring and soulful. While there may be one person leading the session, there is a much more fluent flow to the sex the allows the leader to also be the follower, like a Yin Yang. During tantric/ sacred sex there isn't any pressure to change positions, you are not thinking about a finish line, the leader does not need to be the dictator, it is just a slow meditative style of sexual intercourse. Tantric sex is a great form of meditation. Obviously with the style of intercourse that sacred/ tantric sex is, there is a huge emphasis on breath work; deep controlled breaths that you try to sync together. Breaths that come from the deepest parts of your diaphragm. Timing your inhale perfectly with your partner and exhaling as one. Just how two women who are regularly together can sync their menstrual cycle, just how two peoples' steps will sync when walking together; you and your partner will join in a meditative sync that will connect two lovers in ways you never imagined. This is where the leader may have to demonstrate his leadership, counting, "In 1….2….3…. hold….out 1….2….3…." and repeating the process in a calm quite tone until both are breathing together, simultaneously the man glides his penis in & out of her magnificent vagina. When you are with someone that you love deeply, making this type of love, feeling their body pressed against yours, their erogenous zones exciting yours, and your breaths are not a second out of beat; you will feel one of the most incredible emotions and experience a moment of spiritual transcendence like no other. That is love!
Before you engage in sacred sexual acts you may just share space together. Sitting face to face holding hands; maybe you touch each other's heart while breathing; maybe one sits in the lap of the other face to face and you just embrace each other, supporting each other's posture, using your energy to protect their energy; maybe you just lay down, cuddle and gently stroke your partners face. You might take a shower together prior to the sharing of space, taking your time to clean each other and as commonly said, "Wash all the negative energy from your lives". Post intercourse it is best to wait at least ten, fifteen minutes before showering again, you have energy radiating around you, showering straight away washes all the energy away too quickly. Just lay, cuddle and caress each other, talking about the session, more worshiping of each other, compliments, and admiring each other. Some people will go as far as monitoring what they eat and how much they eat during a tantric period, and practice a range of different fasts. Some people may only eat three portions of meat during tantric weeks compared to seven. They will not consume any artificial sugar or fatty fast food, consuming fruits and nuts instead. The aftercare for tantric sex is just as vital as it is within BDSM because it reassures your partner that you meant the words of love that were said. If you have just been complimenting your husband for how much you love his feet, his shaved head, his thick dad bod, his dark brown eyes, and chest hair; reassure him of those things during the cuddle. Rather than just saying, "That was great sex, I love tantric sex" you might say something like, "You have no idea how attractive your chest hair looks with your body when you stand in the kitchen without a shirt on", "When you look deep into my eyes during sex, you make it extremely hard for me to control my orgasm", "Please never grow Jesus hair, I love your short, shaved, prison styled hair. You look so bad and sexy!". Do you see the difference in how that would feel to say and receive.
If you're a guy admiring your woman, rather than saying, "You're so sexy baby, and so good at sex" say something like "You have some incredibly sexy legs baby, every time you're walking away from me they steal my attention from everything", "You have the most beautiful eyes in the entire world. I could stare into them all day if I didn't have to pay bills and survive!", "When you lay on top of me and just grind your perfect pussy along my cock, you give me the biggest rush of goosebumps". Again, do you see the difference in how that would feel to say and receive. Maybe neither of you need to say anything, you both just admire each other's bodies and sexual offerings. You're going deeper than just the physical realm of sexual attraction, you are saying that I love this about you, you are sexy because of this, you make me feel things I have not felt before. Do you see how Tantric/ sacred sex is an equally powerful type of sex to which BDSM is, and how if practiced wrong serious psychological, emotional, and spiritual damage can occur. This sex is the furthest thing from meek. Just because the practice puts an emphasis on love does not make it soft, and when you even look at the surface level of Tantra the religion, there are stories of goddesses beheading other goddesses. Tantric sex is a meditative style of sex. Tantra is love. And love is powerful!
For those who have been following my educational blogs over the last couple months, could you imagine having an experience where you travel from one sexual realm to the other. Extreme BDSM to Tantra; or would you travel from the sacred world to the kinky world. Either way, that is a lot of work, a lot of preparation, and a lot of thinking. But would be one of the most fulfilling sexual experiences a couple could share from my perspective, a once-a-year treat.
Conclusion
The word Tantra is so much more than what most common people know. Tantra is a way of life, it is a belief system, it is a form of spiritual transcendence. Tantra is not an excuse to liberate yourself and have five orgies a week, be promiscuous, and feel connected to everything that has an erogenous zone. Tantra is an ancient Indian religion. This blog has not even discussed things like red, white, black, pink & grey Tantra. Tantra is huge, Tantra is a religious study and a lifestyle. Tantra has NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX; but everything to do with sex. Tantric/ sacred sex is a form of offering, giving, and receiving love. Tantric sex is a slow dance of intimacy that could last days or weeks, focusing on preservation, discipline, oneness, fluidity, and a deep appreciation for ones self and others. Tantric/ sacred sex is a meditational style of sex that allows two spirits to bond, and bodies to be truly appreciated. Tantric sex has no distinguished finish line, and promotes consciousness with the mind, body, soul, and emotions. Tantric sex is not about having eight hours of sensual sex seven days a week because you are addicted to sex, rather learning to control the waves of sex and let the acts of sex happen naturally and fluently. Tantric sex is a dance, a slow intimate dance of the soul, and a worship of these art vessels we call the human body. I encourage you to learn about this magnificent lifestyle and style of sex, because when you consolidate Tantric/ sacred sexual practices with BDSM practices I believe that you can truly start to develop a deeper appreciation for what sex is, what sex represents, and how to enjoy sex on a much deeper level. And in the next blog that I post 'Let's Just Copulate' you will learn that you can bring some of the knowledge from these two polar opposite realms of sex and use them in the simple day to day vanilla sex. The education of Tantra, Tantric/ sacred sex and BDSM sex create a perfect Yin Yang for sexual education.
Hopefully you have learnt something today, maybe you have now become interested in the practice and will continue further studies. If you are a couple reading this, please try this style of sex with an open mind & heart, make it special, make it romantic, it can be a lot of fun. Should you have any questions for me about this blog please just email [email protected] and I will do my best to point you in the right direction if I can. Like I said though I do not offer tantric services to clients at this stage of my career and it will be many years before I do. That being said if you do want a more SENSUAL service where we take things very slow I am happy to accommodate.
Thank you for reading,
L. Soule.
Mobile: 0411 316 973
Email: [email protected]
Further education
YouTube
1. Demystifying Tantra: The Secrets of Sacred Sexuality
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWGfM2xZVfo
2. What is TANTRA? Introduction for Beginners with Mahara
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szMCKtAULA4
3. How to Practice Sexual Alchemy / White Tantra / Karmamudra / Karezza Explained (Awaken Kundalini)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUzggtYQ9ic
4. Demystifying Tantra: The Secrets of Sacred Sexuality
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWGfM2xZVfo
5. Misconceptions about tantra yoga, Sadhguru about Technique of extreme discipline
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOJRNNEtvuU&t=309s
6. The Secrets of SACRED SEXUALITY & How To Practice It! [7 Tantra Tips]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MV9IW7shmz8
7. Vidya Dehejia on the Yoginis: goddesses of Tantra
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvRso-8oMnU
8. Act as If You Are Not Possessive About Sexuality || alan watts black screen || alan watts no music
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_vUf9jtZKu0
Books
1. Dear Lover by David Deida
The female equivalent of 'The Way of The Superior Man'. This great book talks about a woman's purpose from a traditional but spiritual perspective, and when the origins of tantric/ sacred sex stem from Tantra, an ANCIENT religion that worships the feminine and female, you may want to take some notes from a good traditional source. David has a lot of great value within the world of sex, and so the word 'traditional' should not disgust or scare you. David Talks predominately from a heterosexual viewpoint.
2. Women Don't Owe You Pretty By Florence
A feminist book. WHAT!?!?! Yeah!! Here is the thing, real feminism is great, what feminists have fought to achieve for females is PHENOMENAL. No longer does a woman have to be a stay at home object on the shelf, she can choose to go out into the world and build her empire if she so chooses, she can choose to have kids or not have kids. Within Australia women will not be paid less due to being female. This all being said men & women are not the same. We do not operate the same. We think differently. We have different hormones and organs. The problem is not feminism the problem is extremists. This conversation is too deep and big for this blog, if you want to talk about it put me on a podcast. I dislike red pills views, and I dislike feminists that say Jordan Peterson is a psychopath. If you want to make ten million dollars you'll probably listen to a millionaire. To become a high value man of modern society who truly loves the feminine, sometimes you have to shut the fuck up and listen to her. Good book.
3. Come as you are by Emily Nagoski PhD
Currently I am three quarters of the way through this book. It is a book of accepting yourself as a woman and appreciating your own beauty, navigating stress around sex, mood, and trust. This is a great book for women to start learning how to accept themselves; their 'imperfections', their turn ons and turn offs, how to trust themselves and their own judgment and much more that I can't remember off the top of my head. For men; again if you aspire to be a high value man within modern society sometimes you have to listen to the feminine, even if it is to learn her indirect messages, emotional rollercoasters or her need to talk for the sake of talking. She needs to be heard, appreciated, and feel like she matters. Men are from mars, women from Venus, basic stuff. Women are still people, and while they are generally more emotional thinkers than men (excluding 74.52% of today's men) they still have a brain in between their ears. Learn the feminine, learn the masculine. Good book.
4. Atlas Of the Heart By Brene Brown
A book about healing from trauma. The journey of the spirit is about learning how to let go of that which no longer serves you or brings about negativity to your life. Tantric/ sacred sex can have healing capabilities if done correctly & consciously, studying a little bit about trauma will do you no harm when embarking on a spiritual journey like Tantra; or experiencing the sacred spiritual form of tantric sex
5. Tantric Orgasm for Women By Diana Richardson
Currently listening now and enjoying the information within.
6. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
From a heterosexual point of view women do not want sissy's. Men do not want to date a boy. This does not mean men have to be violent, aggressive, and trying to fight every guy that looks towards his girl. "The best way to win a war is one without violence" Sun Tzu 'The Art of War'. This does not mean girls can not play footy, learn how to rebuild a car, or be a tradie. This just means from a spiritual perspective the feminine wants the masculine and the masculine wants the feminine. And there are feminine & masculine qualities in all of us. Most of us lean one way or the other. This is even pointed out early in this book "This could have been called The Way of The Superior Masculine". This book is a phenomenal book for all. I believe the book has the exact same intellect level of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus. Practice the basics.
7. Hard Times Create Strong Men By Stefan Aarnio
THIS BOOK CHANGED MY LIFE! THE BEST BOOK I HAVE EVER LISTENED TOO!
Harden up snowflake. Work it out. Grow a pair and deal with your shit. No one cares about you. Tantric/ sacred sex stems from Tantra. Tantra is an ANCIENT religion, therefor the traditional beliefs of MASCULINE & FEMININE are crucial to exploring this area of sex. NOT MAN & WOMEN. MASCULINE & FEMININE. Stefan talks about how the masculine and feminine is in all of us. As we have discussed the FEMININE GENERALLY SPEAKING IN A SEXUAL TERM wants the MASCULINE. I have even had countless people who are interested in the same sex, agree with what I have just said. This book may be hard for some people to swallow, it is direct, it cuts to the point, he talks facts, he is respectful. Like I previously said in the 'Come As You Are' review. Learn the feminine. Learn the masculine.
Make deep, full, hearted love.
Sexual educators
My top all-rounder picks are Caitlin Victorious. Esther Perel. David Deida.
