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This blog has been tailored for singles. The complexities as to why someone in a relationship may go outside the relationship and use an escort are for another blog.
You want to hire an escort but you have a sense of embarrassment, guilt, and shame attached to the experience. "Why should I have to pay for this?", "I'm pretty enough to get boys without paying", "What if someone I know sees me with a known face out provider?", "What do I tell people?", "I deserve better than to have to pay for high-quality attention" and probably a range of other thoughts I can't think of. All of which I would like to say "Thanks".
Hiring an escort is nothing to be embarrassed about, with decriminalisation moving the industry forward you will start to see a lot more people opting towards the service for a range of different reasons. From what I hear the dating scene is crap right now, and unless you find a good one that shares the same values, and morals as you, and has similar life directions, you are forced to shift through guy after guy, after guy, after guy until you find someone nice to be around, hoping to not be ghosted. Hiring an escort can make dating easy, you have your man that you pay to provide the service that you need and have mutually discussed, and then when your dream guy comes along and sweeps you off your feet you just toss the escort to the side and continue with life. That sounds really harsh, but you have the ability to do so - welcome to the life of an escort. This is a vicarious comment as I haven't had a client long enough for this to happen, but you have no responsibility to contact us again. However, I would like to say that if you do hire an escort multiple times over a long period and then it's time to say goodbye, just sending a quick message saying that you no longer wish to see them because you have someone, would go a long way. This is just human nature, if you had paid an escort once a month or once every two months for two years and then just vanished, we would wonder where you have gone. If the escort is a good, honest worker they should respond with joy and wish you all the best. If they're cheeky and you both have the repour they may ask if the new partner is kinky. Honest goodbyes due to finding your special someone that you do not have to pay should never be a problem for either party.
Should you request a public boyfriend experience where we go shopping, to a day spa, to a bar, bowling, to a restaurant, the cinemas, hiking or anywhere outside of the four walls with a couch, bed, tv and so forth; and you are anxious or concerned about someone else seeing you with a face out escort, just have the open conversation with your escort privately before going out into the world together. Just because I am a face-out escort does not mean I don't have personal relationships, and we didn't meet elsewhere. I am fashion stylist. I am a male assistant. I am a holiday inspector. I am a digital marketer. I am dating coach. I'm just a boy toy you met on a dating app. Should the very worst case happen, and someone privately, and negatively brings up the fact that they know who I am and what I do, you can either own up nonchalantly and say you would rather pay for someone good while still looking for Mr right; or tell them that it is none of their business what you do. You can do both at the same time…. *I would like to add that this is just my perspective. You cannot and will not hold me accountable legally for any choices you make.
If all you experience is bad dates, ghosting, and lack of connection, what is wrong with paying for a good, high-quality experience & service?
Unfortunately, there are people that associate shame with paying for company, sex, and intimacy, and that is wrong. Usually, it is outside people who have no understanding of the work or have any respect for the providers, clients, or real life. People judge no matter what, and if every single person you meet does not give you the value that you desire then what is wrong with paying for the high-quality company you desire? Sometimes you may have to shift through the bullshit and copycats to find the one for you. This is where I recommend reaching out to your potential provider(s) and asking a few questions to find out if they are the fit for you. Some providers allow social DM's, some don't; some providers supply public BF/GF experiences and are willing to be seen in public with clients, some are not; some male clients have 10-inch giants, some have 6-inch Lebanese cucumbers; some use toys, some don't; some are sensual, some will give you golden showers after walking you on a leash. Finding out the services & boundaries of your potential provider(s) is paramount to a pleasant experience.
Side note. Please be careful if someone is claiming to be a kink provider. I am not the one to say who does and doesn't supply safe kink spaces as I do not currently involve myself with a lot of community events. Therefore, when I advertise selected kink services in the future I won't necessarily have the entire community behind me saying "yes we know him very well". Should you want to be walked on a leash, whipped, receive a golden shower, or experience a roman shower; you need a provider who ensures all the necessary steps to keep you safe mentally, spiritually and physically have been met. The most basic example is if you and a provider are about to begin rope play and the provider does not show you a pair of safety scissors close by, stop immediately!
There will be some providers men & women who will think that what I have just done, and told you to enquire and reach out to potential providers is bad. THAT IS COMPLETE AND UTTER BULLSHIT! That is the Western world's business model of make a decisive decision now. What about the Japanese business model or The Middle Easton business model, where they want to get to know the person they are dealing with first? "We don't live in those country's" you say. Do we live in a society that accepts people of all races, religions, and ethnics? If you reply with, "No, racism still exists" we can not have a conversation because you're either seeking to much attention or too stupid. How are you, the client, supposed to gage if you connect with someone via photos and a biography that every other provider has copied? This is a new generation and a new age of workers and clients. People want connection, people want to feel safe, and people want to feel that you the escort genuinely want to be there and want them, the client, there. As a professional provider I encourage you, the client, to enquire like you would an expensive bed, washing machine, fridge, or a house. WITH A FEW RULES!
While this industry is NOT like any other industry, the push for this line of work to be recognised legally and socially as a real job & career means that you (the client) should feel comfortable asking the right questions to find the right provider. When you buy a house does the first message look like this?
*House you found online.
Hi Real Estate Agent,
Name: Stephanie Roguebottom
D.O.B: 10.10.1994
phone number: 0411 316 973
Service: Buying house 28 Smith St, Orange Grove.
Will pick up the keys tomorrow at 3pm and pay the asking price of $887,463.74
Do you walk into the mattress store and say. "Hi mattress guy, I would like to buy the most comfortable mattress you have on offer." Mattress guy shows you the most expensive bed because he wants to make a good sale. The bed is $10,000. You turn to him and say "I'll take it for $2,500", the words inside the mind of the seller are "Shut the fuck up, and get out of my store", while politely telling you "that is not possible, I don't want to lose my job".
You want to look through the house first, find out if there is anything you do not like. Pictures can be deceiving and make an ordinary house look great. You want to lay on the mattresses for 5 minutes, you might find the most comfortable mattress for you is only $5,684. While most providers do not offer free trials, asking your questions is the walk through, the short conversation is your 5-minute lay down. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! Be patient and respectful with our responses, we live our own lives, we service other people, and just like you, our time is valuable.
Once you make your decision follow the providers booking instructions. For example, mine looks a little like this:
*Email & SMS only.
Name: Stephanie Roguebottom
D.O.B: 10.10. 1994
Phone number: 0431 622 444
email: [email protected]
Date of booking: 23.08.2024
Time of booking: 10am – 5pm
Address of booking: 28 Smith St, Orange Grove
Service: Sex, movies, and dinner.
ID & portrait photo have been sent, 20% deposit has been paid and I will order the uber for you on the day.
A FEW GENERAL RULES OF THE INDUSTRY!
Rule number 1. DO NOT ASK FOR A DISCOUNT!
Providers hate this and it sets a bad mood. Unlike the example I gave you previously when buying a mattress, the "shut the fuck up, and get out of my store" will most likely convert into a polite no response. If you have been seeing your provider regularly for several months, let's say for at least two hours, once a month for six months, and you both have a great business relationship, sure test your negotiation skills and ask for another arrangement. They may say yes, they may say no. If the escort says no do not start insulting them and tell them they are stealing hard working people's money, or putting them down – why did you pay them for the last six months?
If you negotiate a cheaper price by any margin, smile and thank the provider, and do not tell anyone else. If your friend also sees the same provider but complains about the price and you're getting it $50 cheaper, shut up and just say you see great value in the price.
Rule number 2. Do not change providers after making your initial booking.
This is where the value of being decisive should be respected. If you 'shop around' and you believe the provider is the one, go with your first intuition. To confirm the booking you are most likely going to have to pay a non-refundable deposit, don't waste your money and our time by changing your mind after making a decision. Should the experience fail then try the second guy. If all else fails and you still have not found my page, contact Lexx Soule on 0411 316 973 or email [email protected]. He is The Perfect Gentleman.
Rule 3. Be respectful of our time as well.
Because we are not expensive beds, washing machines, a fridge, or a house. We are humans that can break beds, put you through a spin cycle, put some ice cubes down your back, and cuddle. We have responsibilities, we have other clients, some providers aren't full time and have other occupations. If you have multiple questions write your message out in notes and send the message as one, using correct grammar to the best of your ability so that we can understand you.
I'm going to write a whole other blog on some general rules for clients to follow. You will also benefit from following 'The Good Client Guide' on Instagram.
With the direction the industry is going you have a right as a client to ask questions to ensure you receive the service you desire. Just be professional, polite, and respectful. There is not a whole lot more to be said about why you should NOT be embarrassed, it's quite simple when you look around. People want sex, people want intimacy, people want human to human connection, people want companionship. Escorting is the oldest profession in the world. Think about that. Escorts provide the service that you need.
The light of this industry does so much good for it's workers, who do so much for clients, people, and even some kinky relationships. To be a good escort requires a level of skill, patience, compassion, and genuine appreciation for human kind. We are still human ourselves and in our private lives have hobbies, sexual desires, sexual needs, goals, icks, joys, tribulations, spouses, friends, families, children. Never feel embarrassed to hire someone to give you what you need and desire.
Thank you for reading,
L. Soule.
0411 316 973
