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*Disclaimer. Some of the information in this blog may be found offensive to some people. This blog has been written based on my experiences as a heterosexual male escort for the previous two years. I do not write this out of disrespect to anyone, people, beliefs, or things. If you believe you are easily offended or triggered, please do not read this blog.
Thank you, Lexx Soule.
For the previous two years, I have been working as a heterosexual male escort. Within this short time frame, I have learned that this line of work is not for everyone. If you think you will come into this industry and women will just flock to you, think again. If you think that all we do as male escorts is take old ladies, divorced lonely women, or fat mummas out for dinner think again. We service a wide variety of women (some also service men), single women, older women, tattooed women, thin women, thick women, divorced women, virgin women, past and present sex worker women, the list goes on. If you think that by becoming a male escort the female escorts are just going to want to jump on your dick for free then think again. Maybe there is a top tier next level stud that can or has walked into the scene flopped his cock out and bam he has free pussy, chances are it's not going to be you. Most of the female escorts are smart individuals and will not just jump on your cock. Female clients are selective and take their time, you will not be able to prance around telling people you're an escort and expect them to want your dick or to straight up say alright I'll pay you. Most women that I have told I'm an escort follow with the line "I would fuck you, but I'm not paying you". You need a decent level of emotional intelligence, tough skin, and a genuine desire to work with people to make a good male escort. Being an escort you learn the skills of human interaction, human nature, and human behaviour. Being a high-class, full-service escort requires you to be a psychologist, a sex worker, a 'boyfriend', incognito, and at times an actor. This can be a lot and does take its toll mentally. With the growth of sex work becoming prominent within Australia over the last two years, sex work & escorting is becoming more and more popular for clients and providers. But should you become a sex worker, should you become an escort, why do you want to become one, what value do you bring to clients? In the following pages you will discover that this work is not all that it is propped up to be.
Why do you want to become an escort?
"To fuck and get paid doing so!", not actually a bad answer. As a former industry professional, Aussie-born Stirling Cooper once said, "What single man wouldn't want to get paid to have sex, travel, and be taken out to the nicest restaurants". And look if that's as simple as your reason, fucking oath brother, please keep reading though so that you at least do it professionally.
So you have a dick, you're single, want to get paid to fuck, travel, and eat great food. What's you're brain like? Notice how I didn't mention anything about looks. As I have learned, looks are subjective. There are a lot of women who will pick a thick guy without abs over the gym junkie every day of the week, especially if they sense half of the gym session is spent jerking himself off to the size of your biceps and 0.4% body fat. Presentation matters, personal hygiene matters, health matters, personality matters; but being bald, short, muscly, tall, hairy, curly hair or straight hair, long hair or short hair, age, tattooed are all subjective matters. Just because you stand in the mirror and marvel at yourself for one hour every day, and have other guys & girls in your gym say that you look good, does not mean you would make a good escort. It means you look good; you train hard; you're making gains. If that is your goal, then be proud of the compliments and keep going.
Your brain. Do you work your brain? Do you know how to hold deep conversations about a variety of topics? Do you know how to listen? Do you know how to flirt? Do you know how to take criticism? Can you still have a great time if you reach a disagreement within a conversation? Do you have empathy for other people and their experiences? Do you know how to ask the right questions at the right time? When you have sex are you thinking about their pleasure or yours? Work sex is different from personal sex. Do you know how to set boundaries? Do you know what confidentiality is? Would you tell your friends & family that you're an escort? How would you react if they found out? Do you want a relationship? How will you manage that relationship? How well educated are you in the realm of sex? How will you respond when you receive an influx of homosexual requests? Will you be a rude piece of shit or respectfully set your boundaries? If you service men as a man, but your friends don't know that you service men, how will you feel when/ if they find out?
I have a little joke, "If I was gay and doing what I do I would be rich by now". I have had a lot of male inquiries and turned them all down. You might be comfortable servicing other men with boundaries in place; you may be in the closest gay or bisexual. There are a lot of providers who market themselves as heterosexual but still sexually service men. Some male providers don't offer sexual services to men but do offer companionship. You need to know yourself. Will you be embarrassed if you're hiding that service from your personal life and then found out? Your mental health will take a toll if that is the case.
These are things that you should consider before advertising yourself as a high-class full-service male escort. There are smart, lovely people paying top dollar for your time, and while it may be your time, it is their money, it is a Ying & Yang. Without the consumer you don't need the product, without the product there are no consumers. Some of these women have been through horrible divorces; overcoming trauma; are widowed; are cheating on their husbands; are lonely; are highly successful individuals; and are industry workers themselves. With all of these women comes a range of different situations, conversations, and emotions that you never thought you would experience. How will you navigate the interaction? There are also some gorgeous, single, happy, fulfilled women who are just not putting up with the bullshit of the dating scene and would just rather pay a man to have fun with no strings attached.
Clients are paying for the fantasy that you create. You are a business. The brand that you put into the world is what women want when you arrive. Mine has changed a little over time -Lucifer The Perfect Gentleman. Those who have followed my journey for a while or who now endeavour to snoop, will see that I put a little more personability into my business than most. Blogs like 'Bad Boy Lexx' open me up to judgment, while also allowing readers to see that I too am a human who has made mistakes, and has a little bit of a ratbag in him. Lexx Soule is only a percentage of who I am and is still someone I am trying to perfect. How would you present yourself to this world? Would you create a completely new alias and be someone you are not, or would you be your very best authentic self that you feel comfortable sharing? Women are quite good at reading through the copy and paste bullshit that so many newcomers post. If you create a completely new alias how deep have you gone, interests that you have never studied? Hobbies that you have no clue about? Born in a country you have never visited?
What will you do when you can't get hard because you already nutted that day? True story. About a year into this career, I received a booking at the Sunshine Coast, gorgeous women too, she was respectful, a seamless booking. But because I nutted earlier when having sex with my girlfriend at the time, with no prior knowledge of how to become multi-orgasmic, and was in my head I struggled to get my man up. I used a couple toys but it was not what she wanted. I have not seen or heard from that client since.
I recently read a negative review from my very first client from two years ago. TWO YEARS LATER! I stopped seeing her because I felt uncomfortable. At the time I thought she wanted to much contact. Looking back from where I am now, probably just my inexperience.
How would you handle these situations?
And before we continue. Lexx Soule still is The Perfect Gentleman.
What do you think the 'industry' is like? All the providers are having massive orgies; banging each other; just booty calling 24/7; you're a worker, I'm a worker so it's just free sex right?
Maybe for some people and groups of people, but if you aren't accepted into the 'groups' tough luck. Like I previously said a lot of female workers are smart individuals and have their own responsibilities, just because you start advertising yourself as a worker does not mean other workers will flock to your dick. Most of the male providers at the top also have a high level of intelligence mixed with testosterone; so you'll find a mixture of testing you out and big dick contests.
Maybe this is just my luck or the way that I have presented myself, but for an industry that preaches, "Individualism", "Expression of self", "Helping others", there is a lot of arse kissing, judgment, tall poppy syndrome, lying, deceiving, psychological games, selfish gain, backstabbing, gossip, big dick contests, entitlement and much more. I had my inbox blow up because I shared my views that a male should never be able to conceive a child. Someone with a penis should never be able to conceive a child – apparently science is trying to see if that is possible. If you were born a female – have a vagina and ovaries, and take hormone blockers and testosterone you should not be giving birth. One debate was that the hormone blockers and testosterone does not affect the child in the womb. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST! With that amount of intelligence, we may as well start telling mothers-to-be that drinking a bottle of wine a week, smoking weed, and doing cocaine while pregnant with her brothers' child will produce a perfectly normal human.
I also once asked a directory to promote my page for a tour. Their response in short was, "We don't promote tours or men on our social pages". What should I see in the coming days, tour promotions and a male provider advertised on their social pages. That would be an A+ for being Sexist and hypocritical.
Providers do not want to help either. I've reached out to a few over my time and only one gave me high-quality valuable information and it was not where to find clients. With the top of the game receiving messages like "I have a big dick, would I make a good escort", "I have fucked over 100 women, would I make a good escort", "Where do I find clients?", "How do I become a successful escort". It is clear to see why they ignore most want to be male escorts.
For those who are seriously considering this line of work, having read this far, and are still attracted to the work; sex work & escorting is great because you do not need to be a part of the industry to provide a service. You can do your own thing and not get dragged into all the political crap. If you provide the high quality, good, professional service that you said you would, you will be fine. In Brisbane alone there are roughly about five to ten million potential clients – over eighteen, men & women that MIGHT use a provider.
If you have a great dick and want to bang the hottest women go become a pornstar. If you genuinely like people, have a deep understanding of sex & sexual pleasure, have some fundamental knowledge of psychology, and have the desire to be a lifelong learner; be an escort. The one provider that gave me some insightful information also gave me some time to sit down for lunch, one thing that he said was, "Not all escorts make good content creators (pornstars), and not all content creators make good escorts". Yes, some people have the fortunate skill & talent of being able to do both, but they are still different games with different requirements. With this paragraph being said though, you could learn all these skills and live a sexually, financially, and emotionally fulfilling life as a real estate agent, lawyer, entrepreneur, tradie, or any other occupation.
More food for thought if you just want to get paid & have sex.
I will be the first person to say anybody CAN become an escort, just as anybody CAN become a surgeon, a lawyer, or a millionaire. BUT not everyone should become an escort. I'm a kid who was suspended on the first day of grade twelve for getting into a blue at the front of the school; gave a history lesson on drugs to my English class; barely passed school; worked at McDonalds for a period of time; lived to chase a ball around an oval field for ten years – the best kind of ball I must add; and filled my body with cigarettes, weed, and alcohol most weekends from seventeen to twenty-two.
Now I am a man who has a direction; has a desire for lifelong learning; is more creative than ever; has a sense of self; understands the importance of mental, physical, and spiritual health; has accepted my flaws; takes responsibility and accepts accountability for my actions; and appreciates life. Before you bring joy and wealth into other people's lives, you must first bring joy and wealth into your own.
I share this to show you that anybody CAN become an escort, but not everyone should become an escort. Like anything, if you want to be good at what you do you have to sacrifice time, energy, and effort. Very few people are naturally gifted at what they do, but being naturally gifted can also be a curse.
Escorting is learnable. But you need to consider the what, why, and how of your business. Because becoming an escort is not a free fuck for all and mass orgies. The modern-day escort is a business. The modern-day escort provides an individual service & experience. The modern-day escort is work. The modern-day escort is a brand. The modern-day escort is a human – maybe a few aliens and mutants floating around too. The modern-day escort is trying to build connection, empathy, and genuine experiences in a world of shallow personalities, a lack of empathy, and fake shit.
Do you really want to be an escort or is it just your false reality of the lifestyle that makes you want to become an escort?
My inbox is open to all who have any questions and genuine interest. I will not be responding to everyone, stupidity, or hate mail.
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Thank you for taking the time to read this blog post. I hope you found it helpful, educational, or at the very least somewhat entertaining.
Kind regards,
Lexx Soule.
